Custom Ritual and Liturgy Design

I am available to design a custom ritual or prayer for the moments in your life that require a ritual or a blessing, and don’t necessarily have one already.

For example, I created the Virtual Memory Circle, which is hosted online, and is ideal for communities that cannot gather in person for a funeral or memorial service. Virtual Memory Circles are a hybrid between a funeral and a grief group – I use elements of both to support people in remembering and honoring the ones they love when they can’t gather to remember in the usual ways. I facilitated three of these Virtual Memory Circles on Zoom in other moments when communities were unable to gather to mourn in person. When COVID-19 began spreading, I knew that others would need to learn how to do this too, so I wrote up a facilitator’s guide, submitted it to Ritualwell, and offered to teach a course on the topic. On March 29th, I shared my experience in a session I designed for clergy from multiple faith backgrounds who wanted to learn how to facilitate their own Virtual Memory Circles. 115 people registered for the course.

I have also designed and officiated two renaming rituals for transgender Jews who wanted new Hebrew names. An article on this topic is forthcoming.

Other rituals I have designed include a mikveh ritual for caregivers (linked on my writing page) and a ritual for moving in together. I have written a prayer for postponing special events, a caregiver’s prayer, and several contemporary interpretive versions of daily liturgy. Most of these are available on Ritualwell.

If you would like to hire me to teach a webinar, to design a ritual, or to write a prayer for your unique experience, please email me at heather.a.paul@gmail.com.

Thank you!