Custom Ritual and Liturgy Design

I am available to design a custom ritual or prayer for the moments in your life that require a ritual or a blessing, and don’t necessarily have one already.

For example, I created the Virtual Memory Circle, which is hosted online, and is ideal for communities that cannot gather in person for a funeral or memorial service. Virtual Memory Circles are a hybrid between a funeral and a grief group – I use elements of both to support people in remembering and honoring the ones they love when they can’t gather to remember in the usual ways. I facilitated three of these Virtual Memory Circles on Zoom in other moments when communities were unable to gather to mourn in person. When COVID-19 began spreading, I knew that others would need to learn how to do this too, so I wrote up a facilitator’s guide, submitted it to Ritualwell, and offered to teach a course on the topic. On March 29th, I shared my experience in a session I designed for clergy from multiple faith backgrounds who wanted to learn how to facilitate their own Virtual Memory Circles. 115 people registered for the course. You can view the course recording by subscribing (free) for Ritualwell’s newsletter.

Testimonial from a Virtual Memory Circle Participant:

“I was worried going into a Zoom memorial service that I was in the wrong mood for it and wouldn’t be able to properly grieve. Without being forced to go through a getting-ready process, I hadn’t been able to unwind or mentally prepare for this event. The moment I logged on, I heard Heather’s voice in the perfect tone, with perfect background music. I was transported. She had somehow created this space that had transformed my study into a place of grieving. I was with my community and they were there with me. Every time Heather’s voice floated through my screen, I was reminded of the love we all had for the woman who had passed. With such care, Heather guided all of us through a service that honored her just as well as any in-person service could have.” 

I have also designed and officiated two renaming rituals for transgender Jews who wanted new Hebrew names. You can read my article about this ritual in the Forward.

Other rituals I have designed include a mikveh ritual for caregivers (linked on my writing page) and a ritual for moving in together. I have written a prayer for postponing special events, a caregiver’s prayer, and several contemporary interpretive versions of daily liturgy. Most of these are available on Ritualwell.

If you would like to hire me to teach a webinar, to design a ritual, or to write a prayer for your unique experience, please email me at heather.a.paul@gmail.com.

Thank you!