Prayer Leadership, Ritual Design, and Spiritual Guidance

I am available to lead prayer services, to support your on your spiritual journey, or to design a custom ritual or prayer for the moments in your life that require a ritual or a blessing, and don’t necessarily have one already.

I’ve created and a transgender renaming ritual, a ritual for moving into a new home, a mikveh ritual for caregivers, a ritual for a bone marrow transplant, and a ritual for a friend closing a beloved art studio. I wrote a prayer for postponing special events, a prayer for receiving the COVID-19 vaccine, a caregiver’s prayer, and several contemporary versions of daily liturgy. You can find many of these linked on my writing page, and published on Ritualwell.

I also created the Virtual Memory Circle, which is hosted online, and is ideal for communities that cannot gather in person for a funeral or memorial service. Virtual Memory Circles are a hybrid between a funeral and a grief group – I use elements of both to support people in remembering and honoring the ones they love when they can’t gather to remember in the usual ways. I facilitated three of these Virtual Memory Circles on Zoom in other moments when communities were unable to gather to mourn in person. When COVID-19 began spreading, I knew that others would need to learn how to do this too, so I wrote up a facilitator’s guide, submitted it to Ritualwell, and offered to teach a course on the topic. On March 29th, I shared my experience in a session I designed for clergy from multiple faith backgrounds who wanted to learn how to facilitate their own Virtual Memory Circles. 115 people registered for the course. You can view the course recording by subscribing (free) for Ritualwell’s newsletter.

Testimonial from a Virtual Memory Circle Participant:

“I was worried going into a Zoom memorial service that I was in the wrong mood for it and wouldn’t be able to properly grieve. Without being forced to go through a getting-ready process, I hadn’t been able to unwind or mentally prepare for this event. The moment I logged on, I heard Heather’s voice in the perfect tone, with perfect background music. I was transported. She had somehow created this space that had transformed my study into a place of grieving. I was with my community and they were there with me. Every time Heather’s voice floated through my screen, I was reminded of the love we all had for the woman who had passed. With such care, Heather guided all of us through a service that honored her just as well as any in-person service could have.” 

If you would like to hire me to teach a webinar, to design a ritual, or to write a prayer for your unique experience, please email me at

Thank you!